If you shake a baby violently, the head is thrown back and forth, the blood vessels under the hard cornea are torn off. Then brain bleeding starts which can be very large. This type of brain haemorrhage often causes severe permanent brain damage in the child, if it survives. Never shake a baby.
When you can't cope as a parent
As the parent of a small baby who screams inconsolably and never seems to be able to fall asleep, it is common to get angry. Everyone gets angry with lack of sleep, and when the child screams despite everything you do for the baby, it is a common feeling that you give up.
When you feel it happening, you have to take responsibility to protect your baby from your anger.
A baby does not die from screaming
Put away your baby. Close the door. Catch your breath. Call someone. But never shake.
Shaking a baby is often fatal
A baby does not die from screaming alone. But there is a high risk that your baby will die from brain bleeding if you shake. Brain bleeding leads to increased pressure in the brain and respiratory arrest. If you have shaken your baby - call an ambulance.
Ask for help
When you can't take care of your child: ask for help. Put the child away in his bed or on the floor and go into another room. Think about whether you have the opportunity to get help. If the child has another parent, it is time to call that parent home. Can you call the BVC nurse? Maybe you have a sibling, a parent, a mother-in-law, a neighbor or a friend you trust. Call and ask for help!
If you have no one at all who can help you: come to the ER and explain the situation.
If it's daytime, you can always call the municipality's social services. They can give you the best support.
Will social services take the child away from me?
If you shake the child so that it gets brain damage, the Social Services should decide that someone else can take care of the child. But if you seek help that you can no longer cope with the child, then you show that you are a responsible and wise parent who knows your own limitations. It says a lot towards you getting to take care of your child but with extra support. Forcibly disposing of a child is the very last solution that the Social Services rarely use.
Rocking hard in the pram
It is not possible to cause damage to infants by rocking the pram hard, or driving it over a curb. It is precisely the repeated uncontrollable tossing of the child's head back and forth that causes injuries.