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Postpartum depression – when it’s hard to be a parent

Postpartum depression

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Depression is a common disease. Postpartum depression is depression associated with being a new parent. If you are experiencing postpartum depression, it is especially important to seek care quickly. With a child to care for, depression may take longer to heal, especially when you are sleep deprived.

Symptoms of postpartum depression

The symptoms of postpartum depression are the same as in other depressions: loss of energy, hopelessness, loss of interest, difficulty feeling pleasure, difficulty concentrating, anxiety and difficulty sleeping. In severe depression, one can be extremely tormented by feelings of guilt and hopelessness, which can become so strong that life is not worth living.

Difficult to connect with your child

Especially in postpartum depression, it can be difficult to connect with your child and feel joy at becoming a parent. The love for your child may have to wait until the depression heals. Until you understand that you have depression, this often leads to severe feelings of guilt. But this is nothing to feel guilty or ashamed of, it is the depression that makes you feel that way. Once you heal from the depression, you will be able to connect with each other without hindrance.

Baby blues or three-day crying

It is very common to become emotional, depressed and cry easily a few days after giving birth. It’s called the baby blues, or three-day crying. Baby blues should begin to dissipate within a few days. If it gets worse and worse every day for more than 1-2 weeks, these may be signs of depression developing.

Postpartum depression in fathers and non-birth mothers

Even fathers and non-birth mothers can develop depression as new parents. It’s understandable! Depression emerges in different periods of your life especially during intense stress, like having a child. It is just as important for the non-birthing parent to receive treatment for depression, as it is for the birthing parent.

Depression during pregnancy

5-10% of all pregnant women already have depression during pregnancy. It may be difficult to distinguish between mild or moderate depression symptoms from pregnant symptoms, but if you are unsure, seek medical attention or a psychologist for assessment.

Help during depression

There is very effective treatment for depression. Feelings of hope, shame and inferiority belong to the disease. Don’t let it stop you from seeking help!

Midwives or nurses are a good first point of contact for mild or moderate depression. Do not wait until they ask at the baby’s 2 month check up – talk about what you are thinking! The health or medical center is another good option.

If depression is more severe, with severe anxiety, severe difficulty sleeping or suicidal thoughts – seek help directly at the emergency psychiatry ward. Contact information can be found at (in Sweden). In many counties there is an emergency telephone number where you can call for advice.

If you or someone close to you is so severely depressed that you or they think it would be best for the family to take your or their own life, then seek help directly at the psychiatric emergency room.

CBT for postpartum depression

In mild to moderate depression, psychological treatment in the form of CBT alone or with medicines takes precedence. An easy way to access CBT in Sweden is .


Antidepressants (SSRIs) in pregnancy and postpartum depression

SSRI, such as sertraline, is a type of antidepressant that has a good effect against depression. Many are reluctant to take SSRIs during pregnancy and lactation for fear of causing side effects to the baby. It’s a fear that hurts more than it helps.

It is established that SSRIs are a safe drug treatment during pregnancy. With some preparations, there is a risk of tremor and low blood sugar after childbirth, but this is transient.

It is also demonstrated that SSRIs are a safe drug treatment during lactation.

Sleep in postpartum depression

In all depressions, sleep is important for recovery and healing. You often find it difficult to sleep from depression, and if you have a baby at home, it can be very difficult to get any good sleep.

At this stage, it is important to prioritize and organize. If there is a non-depressed parent, then they are encouraged to take care of the child at night. If this isn’t possible, then rally your network – grandparents, friends… Ask for help.

Hypnotics may also be necessary in the more acute phases of depression. Ask for a variant that is non-addictive. Do not sleep in the same bed as your child after taking sleeping pills.

Sick leave during postpartum depression

In postpartum depression, usually you do not have the energy to take care of your baby yourself, and you need to sleep at night. That’s when you need to be sick from your parental leave so that someone else (usually the other parent) can go in and be on parental leave. Ask the health center doctor for sick leave while you ask for treatment and help.


Life as a new parent can sometimes be difficult. It’s new and tumultuous, but it should not feel mostly heavy and hopeless. When it does, that’s when you need to seek help – for your own sake and for the child.

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